Dec 6, 2012

Death And Bereavement: The Innate Part Of Life

By Albert Arce


As we live, we nosh death. Death is the apparent end that every human being is destined to experience. According to the well-known Japanese writer, Haruki Murakami, death is not the opposite of life but innate part of it. It is a truth that we cannot change. So when we go through a death of relative, friend, family member, colleague or a loved one it creates a distressing impact in our lives. The kind of pain and sorrow that's too deep, neither genuineness nor kindness can cure. Nonetheless, we don't have an option but to go through the process and learn something from it. Grieving is a an inherent process that allows us to contemplate and eventually be at peace enough to go on with life.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a famous Swiss American psychiatrist was passionate about her various studies in death, dying and near death experience which led to her hypothesis of the five stages of grief. In her theory, she stated that there are five fundamental stages of grief that are normal responses to loss, death or sickness.

The acronym of the 5 stages of grief is DABDA. Letter D stands for denial. At this phase, denial is the temporary defence mechanism which is either conscious or unconscious. Letter A stands for anger. At this phase, the person experiences a strong feeling of rage and it is often normal to blame oneself to release tension from the experience. Letter B stands for bargaining. At this phase, the person is experiencing strong feeling of hope that it is possible to bargain or postpone with the recent loss, death or sickness. Letter D stands for depression. At this phase, the person experiences sorrow, doubts and fear. The last letter A stands for acceptance. At this phase, the person gradually accepts the loss and starts to move on with life.

As human beings, we have high respects our loved ones, in connection to that, we conduct a funeral rite to remember the life of the individual who passed away. In the Merlion City, funeral service Singapore provides a comprehensive services and concern regarding the culture, beliefs, religion and practices of the dead. As a matter of fact, funeral services in Singapore reveres the religion of dead individuals by providing customs and belief sensitive rites such as Buddhist, Taoist, Catholic or Christian funeral services.

Undoubtedly, losing a loved-one is one of the most distressing ocassions a person can experience. It's emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally overwhelming not to mention that whilst going through this overwhelming course you are expected to organise for the departed's funeral rites.




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