If you've ever had a guilty conscience, you know how difficult it can be to go on with your own life just like before the event which caused your guilt. Taking steps to help you make up for the harmful event or even put it in your past can help you deal with your guilt and move ahead with more positivity.
Consider applying these ways to help you cope with a guilty conscience:
1 . Come clean. If you can go to the particular person you wronged, completely understanding and accepting what might happen to your relationship, you might be able to clear your conscience.
* On the other hand, if you have a guilty conscience, it is often because you committed a severe error against someone you really love and care about. You might feel as if you can never come clean with that individual because of possible consequences.
* If you are inclined to choose this approach, look at it thoroughly before you apply it. Reflect both on how this particular information will affect the one you wronged as well as how coming clean will impact you. It may be better to use the written word.
2 . Note down your misdeed and an apology. Read it aloud to the person, or hand it to him to read.
3. Admit to yourself that you're human. Be honest with yourself about what you did. Then, identify that everyone makes errors and that your goal is to refrain from creating the same mistake again.
4. Learn from it. Spend some time thinking about the event and the mistake you made. Put yourself back into that mindset and ask yourself, "Why did I do that? " Understand where you were emotionally at the time and how damaging that "place" was for you. What can you learn from the encounter?
5. Find spiritual guidance. If you belong to a religion that encourages confession and reconciliation, follow through with it! It's truly uplifting and encourages healing from your wounds.
6. Spend some time doing volunteer work. If you believe you must do something to "cancel out" the deed you committed, schedule time to do volunteer work in your community. It may be addressing envelopes for a local charity to mail flyers or answering a neighborhood organization's phones for 2 hours a week.
* Tell yourself that you are "paying" for your misdeed by doing good stuff for others. Maintain positivity.
7. Concentrate on performing one good deed a day. Maybe you can provide your neighbor a lift to the office. Or you can clean your dad's car. Take a look all around you. You'll notice folks everywhere performing daily tasks. Hop in and help them. It will really feel good and renew your faith in yourself and your good behavior.
8. Donate funds to a cause you believe in. Whether it is to aid the Haitians get on their feet or to give toward the restoring of New Orleans, impart a decent amount of change to assuage your conscience. Will it help? It will absolutely create a positive change to someone, probably to you as well.
* Recognize within yourself, "I'm donating this cash to show I'm still a good human being, despite the fact that I made a grievous error. "
9. See a therapist or counselor. If you think you are about to explode from the weight of your mistake, it might be time to talk to a specialist about it. Therapists are required to respect your confidentiality within limits as specified by your state. You will be amazed at how good it feels to say out loud what you did.
* A therapist can help you in dealing better with your emotions, learning to leave the mistake behind you, and grow to be a much better person for it.
Dealing successfully with a guilty conscience will take time and persistance on your part. Set to work applying the above methods. You will be glad you did!
Consider applying these ways to help you cope with a guilty conscience:
1 . Come clean. If you can go to the particular person you wronged, completely understanding and accepting what might happen to your relationship, you might be able to clear your conscience.
* On the other hand, if you have a guilty conscience, it is often because you committed a severe error against someone you really love and care about. You might feel as if you can never come clean with that individual because of possible consequences.
* If you are inclined to choose this approach, look at it thoroughly before you apply it. Reflect both on how this particular information will affect the one you wronged as well as how coming clean will impact you. It may be better to use the written word.
2 . Note down your misdeed and an apology. Read it aloud to the person, or hand it to him to read.
3. Admit to yourself that you're human. Be honest with yourself about what you did. Then, identify that everyone makes errors and that your goal is to refrain from creating the same mistake again.
4. Learn from it. Spend some time thinking about the event and the mistake you made. Put yourself back into that mindset and ask yourself, "Why did I do that? " Understand where you were emotionally at the time and how damaging that "place" was for you. What can you learn from the encounter?
5. Find spiritual guidance. If you belong to a religion that encourages confession and reconciliation, follow through with it! It's truly uplifting and encourages healing from your wounds.
6. Spend some time doing volunteer work. If you believe you must do something to "cancel out" the deed you committed, schedule time to do volunteer work in your community. It may be addressing envelopes for a local charity to mail flyers or answering a neighborhood organization's phones for 2 hours a week.
* Tell yourself that you are "paying" for your misdeed by doing good stuff for others. Maintain positivity.
7. Concentrate on performing one good deed a day. Maybe you can provide your neighbor a lift to the office. Or you can clean your dad's car. Take a look all around you. You'll notice folks everywhere performing daily tasks. Hop in and help them. It will really feel good and renew your faith in yourself and your good behavior.
8. Donate funds to a cause you believe in. Whether it is to aid the Haitians get on their feet or to give toward the restoring of New Orleans, impart a decent amount of change to assuage your conscience. Will it help? It will absolutely create a positive change to someone, probably to you as well.
* Recognize within yourself, "I'm donating this cash to show I'm still a good human being, despite the fact that I made a grievous error. "
9. See a therapist or counselor. If you think you are about to explode from the weight of your mistake, it might be time to talk to a specialist about it. Therapists are required to respect your confidentiality within limits as specified by your state. You will be amazed at how good it feels to say out loud what you did.
* A therapist can help you in dealing better with your emotions, learning to leave the mistake behind you, and grow to be a much better person for it.
Dealing successfully with a guilty conscience will take time and persistance on your part. Set to work applying the above methods. You will be glad you did!
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