Aug 26, 2013

Meeting A Woman On The Street: What To Do

By J. Ryu


You're walking down the road, minding your business, when there she is, a very adorable girl walking along staring at her iphone. You're convinced she is your dream girl and possible future girlfriend and if you let her walk on and out of your life, you'll be losing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. What exactly do you do? What can you do?

Arguably, meeting a woman cold, off the street is one of the hardest pickups to do. A woman on the street feels open and vulnerable so if a strange man walks up, her guard will be up. Have you ever had a stranger walk up to you on the street? Feels weird doesn't it? Then should you give up and let her walk out of your life? No Way!

1. Eye contact

As soon as you see her take action! A street approach needs to feel spontaneous to the woman, not like a rehearsed canned pick up or they will feel uncomfortable. Make eye contact as soon as possible and keep your eyes locked, too, so she understands that it wasn't just chance that your eyes met.

As soon as eye contact is made, be sure she knows you are trying to get her attention. Wave, nod, something clearly attention getting. You are trying to establish contact before you approach which helps the woman prepare mentally for a stranger accosting them.

2. Open Body Language

Upon approach, use open body language! Ensure your body language is not confrontational and direct but responding to her responses towards you. Use an innocent smile! A smile is welcoming, contagious, conveys openness and innocence and will effectively lower her guard.

Incorporate hand gestures into your conversation. This will not only help her follow your conversation if you're somewhere busy, but it will also keep her attention on you. On the street, it will be easy for her to get distracted, particularly if she isn't totally convinced that it was worth stopping to talk.

Make use of your hands to keep her eyes concentrated on you. Using your hands will also display self-confidence. Don't keep them in your pockets with your shoulders slouched. You know exactly what you want and you think she'll want it too. Make sure that is Clear.

3. The Strategy

On a street approach you want to introduce yourself and what you're up to as quickly as you're in so you're not a complete stranger to her. You also want to keep your lines and conversation light, innocent, and casual. The strategy in a street pickup is to drop her raised guard. This is done by you communicating a relaxed, laid-back, innocent tone. No canned pickup lines in street pick ups under any conditions!

A busy woman on the street has somewhere to go so you have to be quick and bold. Don't run after her, your eye contact and waving should be bold enough to convince her to stop. From there, you know what to do. Flirt, compliment, engage. Make her so intrigued by you that she wants to know more.

Don't get too flirty too quick - remember that you just met on the street and you don't even know if she's single - but if her body language is saying "yes," go ahead and ask for a chance to see her again. Stopping someone on the street is a little creepy if you don't handle yourself correctly. The trick is getting her attention and then letting her know how innocent and honest your intentions are.




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