Why So Serious?
Attacks on young people's intelligence and learning ability have been proven to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often last for that person's entire life. Comments such as 'you're wrong', 'you're stupid', 'you're dumb' or 'you're never going to achieve anything' can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school, college and for their entire adult life.
So, with that in mind, ask yourself: have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Has a higher authority (such as a teacher, older sibling, someone at school, parent or relative) ever told you that you were pathetic, useless or stupid? If so, did you automatically believe it to be the truth? It must be the truth because it came from a higher (and often respected or feared) authority didn't it? Obviously, just because a higher authority says it doesn't make it true. But the impact of these attacks is often subconscious and can lurk deep in the mind - rather than be something the individual is acutely aware of.
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Where's Your Esteem?
Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. So then, self-esteem is obviously important! As such, let's ask ourselves the following questions: What kind of communications about your learning were you subjected to when you were young? Positive or negative? What kind of communications about your learning are you subjected to now? Positive or negative? Most importantly of all, what kind of communications do you subject yourself to? Positive or negative? What does the little voice in your head say? Does the voice support you, build you up, give you confidence, tell you you're one smart cookie? Or does the voice bring you down, tell you to stay in bed today, tell you you're worthless, and make negative thoughts swirl around inside your head? What can you take away from asking yourself these questions? Did you learn anything just by asking yourself these questions?
Time To Make A Change!
Let's not get all down in the dumps feeling sorry for ourselves! You now understand one reason why people feel down about their learning ability. But whether or not you feel you have high self-esteem at the moment, the real point of this article is to help build you up and allow you to become the best you that you can possibly be. We want you to be awesome, not just good. We want you to be a powerful force, not just strong. So what do you want? Let's look at some tips to help boost your confidence.
1. Let's get positive, positive, I want to get positive, let's get into positive (think theme song from 'Let's Get Physical'). Just be positive - about every single thing! Especially yourself. Talk yourself up. What's the point in being negative anyway - what does it solve? Does it make anything better? Or does it make it much worse? Try being positive about every single thing for one whole week. That's right - a week. You can do it. Try it. See what happens. Then do two weeks, three weeks and more. What do you think will happen? There is no doubt that if you do this and stick to it, your attitude will change dramatically. Make it happen.
2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up. Do this for one week. Don't be weird about it, just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. Don't allow yourself to pretend that there is nothing good (some of you will try this old trick!)
3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.
4. Help others. That's right others. No, not yourself. Others! You will really feel good about yourself when you do, but that's not really the point. The point is that if you want to create a great sense of worth in your life, see what a difference you can make to other people's lives. Lend a hand. Help your mother with the dishes. Help your little sibling with their homework. Do one thing for someone else every day. See what happens. Also, only associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people - they'll only drag you down and they aren't worth your time.
To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!
Attacks on young people's intelligence and learning ability have been proven to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often last for that person's entire life. Comments such as 'you're wrong', 'you're stupid', 'you're dumb' or 'you're never going to achieve anything' can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school, college and for their entire adult life.
So, with that in mind, ask yourself: have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Has a higher authority (such as a teacher, older sibling, someone at school, parent or relative) ever told you that you were pathetic, useless or stupid? If so, did you automatically believe it to be the truth? It must be the truth because it came from a higher (and often respected or feared) authority didn't it? Obviously, just because a higher authority says it doesn't make it true. But the impact of these attacks is often subconscious and can lurk deep in the mind - rather than be something the individual is acutely aware of.
To read the full article please follow the links below.
Where's Your Esteem?
Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. So then, self-esteem is obviously important! As such, let's ask ourselves the following questions: What kind of communications about your learning were you subjected to when you were young? Positive or negative? What kind of communications about your learning are you subjected to now? Positive or negative? Most importantly of all, what kind of communications do you subject yourself to? Positive or negative? What does the little voice in your head say? Does the voice support you, build you up, give you confidence, tell you you're one smart cookie? Or does the voice bring you down, tell you to stay in bed today, tell you you're worthless, and make negative thoughts swirl around inside your head? What can you take away from asking yourself these questions? Did you learn anything just by asking yourself these questions?
Time To Make A Change!
Let's not get all down in the dumps feeling sorry for ourselves! You now understand one reason why people feel down about their learning ability. But whether or not you feel you have high self-esteem at the moment, the real point of this article is to help build you up and allow you to become the best you that you can possibly be. We want you to be awesome, not just good. We want you to be a powerful force, not just strong. So what do you want? Let's look at some tips to help boost your confidence.
1. Let's get positive, positive, I want to get positive, let's get into positive (think theme song from 'Let's Get Physical'). Just be positive - about every single thing! Especially yourself. Talk yourself up. What's the point in being negative anyway - what does it solve? Does it make anything better? Or does it make it much worse? Try being positive about every single thing for one whole week. That's right - a week. You can do it. Try it. See what happens. Then do two weeks, three weeks and more. What do you think will happen? There is no doubt that if you do this and stick to it, your attitude will change dramatically. Make it happen.
2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up. Do this for one week. Don't be weird about it, just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. Don't allow yourself to pretend that there is nothing good (some of you will try this old trick!)
3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.
4. Help others. That's right others. No, not yourself. Others! You will really feel good about yourself when you do, but that's not really the point. The point is that if you want to create a great sense of worth in your life, see what a difference you can make to other people's lives. Lend a hand. Help your mother with the dishes. Help your little sibling with their homework. Do one thing for someone else every day. See what happens. Also, only associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people - they'll only drag you down and they aren't worth your time.
To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!
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